What is love??? Love is that bond which binds two strangers so close together that it makes them forget the world.. makes them believe that no one else exists and nothing else matters… They go off to a dream planet where the only inhabitants are both of them… A place so exclusive for them that no one else is welcome… where no one else can approach…
What is friendship?? Friendship is that bond which never binds anyone… a bond which can be shared with everyone… a bond that allows freedom… a bond that is not jealous… a bond that is not selfish…. A bond which is often mistaken for love…. But which is entirely different from love….
And you know what’s the difference between love and friendship?? Love tries to destroy friendship while friendship tries to accommodate love…
As I have often said, my personal experience with love is null… all I know about it is what I see around me… and as far as that is concerned I am not much in favour with this idea of being in love…
As you know most of my blogs are based on my personal stories… so let me tell you my story.. I have a friend.. A great friend… maybe not a very very close friends because we have known each other only for two years.. But still a very great friend of mine… so this friend (it’s a guy by the way) is a very friendly fellow and hence he has a lot of friends… everyone likes his company… they love talking to him… and he’s very popular… So life is going on cool when suddenly he falls in love.. Or rather he realises he has fallen in love with his childhood friend… Great!!! We are all happy for him because this is exactly the same girl we have been teasing him with.. So wow!! Finally they are together… yippee!!
But…. This changes everything.. He is no longer that friendly guy anymore.. He becomes all serious.. He cuts off all contacts.. No messages.. No phone calls… not even a smile… he has just totally forgotten everyone… he is no longer interested in anything except his girl… he has finally got the person of his dreams and so everyone else becomes useless…
Is this love?? Is this the romantic feeling everyone waits for and talks about so much.. Is forgetting your friends and hurting them so painfully the definition for love?? This is not a single example… it is something that happens almost all the time… maybe not in such a severe way.. But everyone who falls in love ceases to give importance to friendship…
But friendship still grows even when its hurt… which is why all his friends still contact him… still try to keep in touch with him… so isn’t friendship a much more beautiful and meaningful relationship than love… but no one will ever understand that… because in love there is glamour and passion while friendship is just a “taken for granted” relationship… I hope I will be able to hold on to friendship even when love binds me… and I hope that everyone realise that both are equally important to make our lives beautiful….
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Lovely post sis, after our chit-chats in the last three months, this post comes as no surprise.
There's so much of maturity in ur writing.
Will call up and tell u more tonite ;)
Ps: Opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one - Confucious
(I think you got the point ;) hehhehe...)
i must say a solid A- for this one..
"But friendship still grows even when its hurt"
"because in love there is glamour and passion while friendship is just a “taken for granted” relationship"
Catchy bt mature sentences..!! U rock sis..!
Good read... Reminded me a bit of this quote from the book Shantaram:
"Most loves are like that. Your heart starts feeling like an overcrowded lifeboat. You throw your pride out to keep it afloat and your self respect and your independence. After a while you start throwing out your friends, everyone you used to know. And it's still not enough. The life boat is sinking and you know it's going to take you down with it. I have seen it happen a lot. I think that is why I'm sick of love."
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