Friday, April 27, 2012

Waking up to reality!

I just realised that I had been living in a beautiful dream all  my life. A dream filled with love, care, freedom, individuality, safety, confidence..... A dream so wonderful that I assumed it to be the truth... Inspite of hearing about restrictions, insecurity, violence, trickery and suppression I never saw them as a threat. Angelina Jolie was my idol and Helen Keller was my inspiration. 'A girl can do anything' was my motto. I would mock people who ever tried to put my ideas down. I believed that as long as a woman had the strength to live there is nothing that can put us down. But then the doors of reality opened.... And what I saw beyond those doors was the HARSH truth.
When women speak of suppression and restrictions I used to wonder why they don't just walk away from everything. Why don't they stand up for what is right and do what they really want to do with their life. All my previous posts speak in this line. But I have found the reason now. In the eyes of the society the woman is always wrong. Whatever happens to a woman the general notion in the society is 'she must have done something wrong'. A guy can walk away with anything as long as this idea prevails. And a girl can never be safe as long as this idea prevails.....
A woman always needs a guy to look after them.  This is an age old concept that still holds true. The society promotes this. The only people who will support a woman who is genuinely in trouble will be her husband*.... brother... son.. or friend...(*subject to many conditions).. The rest of the world will see her as an idiot who deserves what she got. A woman can never be totally independent as long as this situation continues..
I heard the story of '22fk' and felt the climax was awesome. When I told one of my friends he said 'But its just a story...impractical..." and I AGREED!!! I myself was shocked that I'm actually agreeing that women are not strong enough. But I guess when you see the whole society turning against you, you tend to just give up fighting for something you always believed in. Stuff like 'Be strong', 'Believe in yourself', 'Never give up your ideas' etc seem stupid when the society is so large and stubborn. Indeed it is more 'practical' to just agree that we are the 'weak' section of the society who will always need protection... the section that is always wrong in the eyes of the society.... the section to which anything and everything can happen at any time anywhere while the whole world will just stand by and watch....
People say 'one day' the society will change... the attitude towards women will change.... women will have equal rights... women will be safe.... 'one day' women can hold their head up high and walk anywhere with absolutely no fear in their hearts.... And we have organisations and idealistic individuals who promote strong messages to achieve this 'one day' soon. I was one of them. But in this fight to reach the 'one day' I realised maybe it is never gonna come....