Being a woman is divine

You groan out “not another feminist article please…” as soon as you read the title and scroll down searching for something else worth reading. So for those few who are still reading this let me tell you that this is not an article on how much women suffer and how they are being oppressed by men and how women are better than men and blah…blah… blah…. It is just a summary of my short years as a woman and how much I love being one. What actually lead me to publish this blog is this scrap I received from a guy :
“gals r not free lyk guys r ...........!!!!!!!dey've da bloody restrictions
n den u'll start cryin n............oh shit.................. bloody hell........... "
So this blog is specially dedicated to this guy.
When I was born my dad distributed sweets among his pals and he was asked why he was doing such a thing since his child was “only” a girl. He was offered comforting words and wished better luck next time. As I grew up my parents were advised to start saving up soon because according to the society having a girl child is “expensive”. I grew up blissfully ignorant of such things in fact I didn’t even know the difference between boys and girls though I used to wonder why dad had a moustache while mom lacked one.
I was brought up in an “ultra modern” family where there was never any “this is how a girl should behave” talks . I was never reminded of how much a burden girls are to a family. I didn’t know why my relatives used to give “I feel sorry for you” looks to my mom when she told them that both her children were girls. My parents never told me what the society expects from a girl. In short I had a very carefree and “it’s great being a gal” attitude during my childhood. Since I was in a “girls only” school I could never compare my life with guys. And I had no brothers too.
When I entered my teens for the first time in my life I experienced eve teasing. Also a great friend of mine (a guy) suddenly gave me a love letter which made me think that I could never trust guys. This changed my attitude towards guys. So while my pals spent their high school falling over guys and discussing love stories I found it silly. During this time my teachers started giving talks on the proper way to be a girl and about how much girls had to suffer. Also all my friends were telling me how much they wished that they were born as guys. Girls who had brothers told me about how much more freedom guys had. But my parents had so far never curtailed my freedom so I used to wonder why these girls talked like this….
Later I joined a co-ed school. I found out after a long time that guys too can be great pals….and now I could compare our lives. Here again girls were wishing they were guys. I asked them why??? And here’s their reply……
Guys can dress how they like without getting comments. If a girl wears something cool she cannot walk half a mile without getting at least a minimum of five vulgar comments and sneering looks. But u never see gals standing in groups on the roadside commenting on the way guys dress. Guys can go out for all night parties. They can go to the most crowded place safely while we have to drag our dads everywhere or else carry a defence tool with us always.
Guys secure the top ranks in all entrance tests. Guys are given more opportunity to go abroad.
In short according to my friends being a guy is like having an ideal life….

But friends you told me about how much gals miss by not being guys… but have u ever thought about how much guys miss by not being girls….

A woman’s life is unique… we have the ability to feel…. To truly understand…. To create a life…. Can a guy cry openly and vent out his feelings? We are considered emotionally weak.. But a girl can suppress sexual feelings much better than any man…. We are considered physically weak. But no man suffers as much physical pain as a woman….
What we make of our life is decided by our choices. We can either accept the fact that we are women as a burden and live all our life in depression or we can discover how beautiful it is to be a woman and understand the true beauty of life. Girls do have a more challenging life than guys but that makes it more fun. Treat life as an adventure. Don’t be put down by what the society imposes on you. You are the creators of your own destiny.

I would never say a woman is superior to a man or vice versa. They are like two sides of the same coin. In our differences we unite. Creation of life is an emotional and physical union of a man and woman. A family is the result of a strong bond between a man and woman. Nothing can exist if we don’t unite. Girls should accept a boy’s life as different but not feel envious about it similarly a guy should also accept a woman's way of living. Only if we accept the fact that inspite of our differences we are our both equally important can we lead a proper life.

An article like this is usually concluded by a paragraph on how men should respect and accept women and treat them as their equals. But my advice is not to men but to women. It's women who curtail their own freedom. Women themselves believe that they cannot come up in life. They do not understand their own abilities and think that men are always better than them.
Never have such false notions. Consider yourselves as an individual with potentials first and then as a woman. Whatever we achieve or whatever we don’t is dependent on our talents and hard work and not on the fact that we are women. Boys secure more ranks in entrance not because they are boys but because they work hard. It’s an insult to give credit of their achievement to their gender. So break free from such discouraging thoughts. Don’t let scraps like the one I received let you down. Start living the way you wish to. And realise that no one can ever stand in your way to success…. (Coz its always “ladies first“.. hehe…)